Maintaining a good relationship with your girlfriend takes more work than just a feeling. It requires a remarkable amount of focus and heaps of effort. If you want to take some proactive approach to creating and building a good relationship with her, here are 21 tips that might help you.
1. Leave no doubts.
Simply, make sure that she knows you’re 100% into her and not just because of her physical features. Let her feel how much you love her everyday, encourage her to achieve her goals, and lend support whenever she needs it most.
2. Never go to sleep angry.
Don’t let the day pass by without fixing your problem. Instead, continue until both sides have had enough, and decide together that the argument has ended, then forget the issue. Just learn to forgive each other, if you want to maintain a good relationship with her.
3. Spend quality time together.
Take a relaxing walk around, have a drink together, go for a weekend drive to a cafe or restaurant, disconnect from the internet, laugh, relax, and have fun together.
4. Appreciate her.
If she prepares meal for you tell her outright that you appreciate the things she does. Always express gratitude and acknowledge her sacrifices when she helps you out even in the smallest things.
5. Listen to her.
If you just keep on talking instead of listening, your girl will feel unwanted. Put down what you’re doing, give her your full attention, listen carefully, and try to give her advice if she needs it.
6. Talk about the future.
This will not only let your relationship feel stable, but this act also shows commitment from each other.
7. Give your support.
Encourage her to reach her dreams, let her know that you are happy and proud of her achievements, applaud her success, always be present at important events, boost her confidence when she’s struggling, and don’t forget to compliment her.
8. Avoid using words that might hurt her.
Try not to say something painful that you will regret in the end. It may be difficult for you, especially when you’re extremely angry but always remind yourself that it can ruin your relationship. You can walk away or stay silent from the argument until you cool down, this will help you keep your relationship intact.
9. Stay positive.
If you’re in a bad mood, chances are your crappy mood will rub off everyone around you, including your girlfriend. It may be unavoidable, but try to do your best to stay positive. Let go of negative thoughts, accept and find solutions, let her see that you are approaching each challenge with a positive and happy attitude.
10. Include her in your life.
Include her in every decision you make, ask her opinion, invite her when you want to spend time with your friends and family, or offer to spend time with her friends.
11. Always be kind to her.
Always do random nice things for your girlfriend. It could be as simple as helping her with one thing on her weekend to-do list, bring her things she loves or get the ingredients to make her favorite dish. Whatever the situation is, always show her kindness. Love is kind, thus, being kind to her all the time will make her feel more loved.
12. Compliment her.
Take time to notice different things like the outfit she picked out, the way she does her make up, or tell her you like her new haircut. However, compliments also don’t have to be purely physical. You can also compliment her on getting good grades at school, on her promotion at work, or tell her how much you admire her emotional bravery.
13. Work as a team.
You are not just a couple but you are a “team”. Think of your joint success and use it to motivate each other, support each other through discipline, and pull each other through the hard stuff.
14. Be honest.
More severe actions like being unfaithful can end a relationship, so as much as possible be honest and upfront even if you think it will make you look bad. If you did something wrong, it’s best if you let your girl know it sooner or later. And if she doesn’t trust you because of your previous acts, make an effort to show her your sincere apology and that you’ve changed.
15. Exercise together.
Work out together to stay fit, you will not only benefit for your own health and well-being but it will boost happiness in your relationship. This will also help you push yourselves, motivate each other and have some quality time together.
16. Don’t play the blame game.
Assigning blame when having an argument will only ruin your relationship. So as much as possible, avoid blaming each other and work through the situation like partners.
17. Leave her sweet notes.
Writing notes for your most special girl strengthens your relationship, but you should put your feelings in writing, too, which is a great way to express yourself.
18. Be aware.
Be mindful of your own role in your relationship. When a difference arises, try becoming an observer of your thoughts, your emotions, your needs, and your ego.
19. Talk about the tough times.
Do not ignore serious issues in your relationship, as much as possible, acknowledge that tough times exist. Sit down and have a hard conversation with your girlfriend about how things have been and be willing to fix them.
20. Treat her with respect.
Value your girlfriend as a woman and as a human. Respect her opinions, emotions, principles and beliefs which may be different to yours. Show to your girlfriend that you are mature and open-minded. Be considerate and learn to accept new things and be humble enough to adjust yourself for the happiness and growth of your relationship with her.
21. Show your affection.
There are actually a lot of ways to show love to your girlfriend, either through your actions, words and behavior. Send her flowers, cook her favorite dinner, take her out, surprise her, and tell her you love her while looking into her eyes, are only few ways on how to be affectionate to your girl.
Just start with one strategy and build your way up!